Is This You?

Divorced, widowed, single – You’re a woman aging alone

Most of the people who become my clients are smart, independent midlife women who want to come to terms with their uncertainties about growing old alone. They may not be dealing with their old age just yet, but they know it’s in their immediate future.

Many of my clients have also seen someone close to them age alone or have a terrible experience of aging. They want more for themselves, and they’re not sure how to get it.

These women love where they are in life, and they’re not the sort to dwell in fear. They’re coming to recognize that as they age, they’ll be doing so alone.  And they don’t want “aging alone” to mean “aging by someone else’s rules.

I enjoy working with my clients immensely because they are such strong, amazing women. They want to grow older their way, and they’re willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen – even confront their fears.

Is this you?

You’re somewhere between 45 and forever.

You’re enjoying life to the fullest. These are your best years yet, and you feel empowered, confident, and more free than you ever have before. You’re independent, determined, and proud of all you’ve accomplished, and you know you’re ready to tackle more.

You know you’re going to grow old alone.

Either you’re already doing so or you can see it coming. You may be divorced, widowed, or living single. You may be perfectly happy alone, but the prospect of getting older alone is somehow less comfortable. You’re torn by those conflicting feelings.

You want great things for yourself.

You’ve gotten to the place you are today through hard work, intelligence, and determination. You don’t plan to stop living that way just because you’re getting older. Your worries about aging alone are just one more obstacle to deal with, and you know that you have the ability to work through this one – just like you have so many others.

You realize what worries you isn’t really “Aging” OR “Being Alone.”

Much of what scares you is the thought of ending up “old” AND “alone.” It’s also the “what if’s” you carry around of what hasn’t happened yet, but could.  And it’s all the scary stuff you keep telling yourself, and the horror stories you keep playing in your head about being old and alone – and vulnerable – and how it might not end well. You want to change those stories into new ones you can wrap yourself in for the long haul. But first, you have to untangle yourself from the stories you’re struggling with now.

You hate platitudes.

You may not be entirely sure how you feel about growing old alone. You do know that you don’t want anyone to pat you on the head and tell you it’s all going to be all right. You want real answers – your answers – and you’re willing to work to find them. They might not fit anyone else’s life, but they’ll damn well fit yours!

You want support . . help . . a Mentor.

Figuring out how you want to age is an independent decision, and it should reflect you as an individual. In order to get to those decisions, you’re going to have to confront a lot of your past and the emotions that have grown out of it.

You want to know you can count on someone to support you and help you through that process. You want honesty. You want compassion. And a little humor certainly wouldn’t hurt.

Is this YOU?

If any of that sounds like you, you’re in the right place. Try a free coaching session to see if you and I are a good fit for one another, and we’ll get you the support you’re looking for starting right now.

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